Areas of Expertise

Individual Therapy

Individual therapy

I believe in our innate ability to expand our experiences of life and to thrive. In today’s fast paced world, overload and overwhelm is becoming the norm of the day, and distracts from our own intuition and what we know about ourselves. Individual therapy is one way to regain clarity and a deeper connection with oneself in an authentic, explorative and accepting space.  

Psychotherapy is a collaborative process where we work together to identify and change self-limiting thoughts, behaviour patterns and to recognise the impact and meaning of emotions, in order to gain new skills to manage whatever future challenges arise. In therapy we explore what is most important to us, what brings us happiness and satisfaction and what, on the contrary, undermines our well-being.

In our work together, I draw on various modalities (approaches) as it suits you, acquired through years of learning, research and practice. Whether it is to explore inner working models, family systems, attachment, acquiring more strategies to be mindful, grounded and centered, enhanced regulation or to connect better with others.

 

I utilise both bottom up (expressive and somatic work) as well as top down modalities (talk therapy). We all require a different point of departure and wants to be met on a unique and individual level.

 

In essence though it’s about accepting and expressing all emotions in a healthy way, to regain a stable sense of self, reclaim agency and control, and to live with loving kindness. Through focusing on inner resources and strengths, we focus on renewed possibilities to live a better life.

"We can learn something new anytime we believe we can" - Virginia Satir

 
Transforming Trauma to Restore Resilience

I work from the premise that all healing is innate. Our bodies are hardwired not only to survive but to thrive post events that are stressful, overwhelming and traumatic. I am fascinated by how the energy within us shifts as we start to feel safer externally then internally. With this comes growth, and connection to a sense of aliveness.

I am currently pursuing the work of Peter Levine's Somatic Experiencing® which is a gentle, non-invasive approach that works with the body’s natural self-regulation system. The approach involves increasing awareness of stuck fight/flight/freeze system responses and supporting its completion.

 

SE works with both developmental trauma (adverse childhood experiences such as abuse and neglect), as well as incidental trauma such as vehicle accidents, illness, hospitalisation and so forth.

 

Pretty much all chronic and mental dis-ease can be connected to the dysregulation of the nervous system due to unresolved stress.It shows up in a  variety of ways, such as:

  • Cognitive/ Mind: racing thoughts, anxious and overwhelming thoughts, trouble focusing, and a mind that runs a million miles a minute. Resistance, procrastination, and self-sabotage.

  • Emotionally:  Low confidence and self-worth, low mood, anxiety, feeling numb and disconnected, overreacting to the "little things", or anger and rage.

  • Physically:   Sleeplessness, fatigue, exhaustion, feeling burned out.

  • Relationships: Trouble setting clear boundaries and getting needs met, and/or staying in toxic relationships.

 

For more information visit traumahealing.org/ somaticexperiencing.com at the Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute

 

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”   Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

Trauma& 

Restoring resilience

 

 kids & Parent/ Family Support

Children & Parent/ Family Support

Play therapy is “hands on” psychological work, as play is the natural language of a child. My goal is for children to realise how they can help themselves by learning to connect with their feelings, develop self-awareness and understanding, and to think through and creatively solve problems. Children and adolescents can learn the skills needed to more effectively communicate with their parents and peers. They learn to express their feelings appropriately, gain self-confidence, and develop more positive social skills. I draw on cutting edge knowledge of nervous system regulation, therapist authenticity, attunement, emotional congruency and mindfulness. Through the use of games, art, Sandplay, breath activities and imagery, children are able to increasingly self-regulate and self-calm, to face the challenges of life.

PARENT SUPPORT

I meet with the caregiver(s) before meeting the child. Throughout the therapy though I encourage the caregivers to remain involved, as I see them as an integral part of the therapeutic process. Sometimes they are directly involved in the therapy sessions, depending on the needs of the child and the family. Overall, this helps to establish a positive change in the family system as well as in the parent-child relationship.

 
Relationship Counselling

Our intimate relationships demand of us to be vulnerable. A relationship is also a unique opportunity to see yourself through another person's eyes.

 

I enjoy working with different relationship structures and draw on a variety of theories and approaches.

 

In essence the search is for wholeness, trust, commitment and balance. A space where each partner can be their full and whole self, and compliment each other to create something more than what would have been possible alone. Whether one or the both of you are at a crossroad, a choice point, scarred from infidelity, or in need of something more, let’s see if we can bring back safety, connection and attunement.

RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING

 
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Location:

200 Lakes Boulevard

(shared premises with Taking Care of Business)

Pyes Pa

Tauranga

3112

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